once my sister got rejected for a job at a web design company that she really wanted to work for so that night she hacked into their website and redirected it to her blog and the next day the CEO called her and hired her on the spot so moral of the story: if at first you don’t succeed, hack their website and make them beg for mercy
The hilarity of women spending (on average) $1,000 a year on beauty products is that the whole idea that women are given much of a choice whether or not to wear makeup.
Plenty of women choose to not wear makeup. But we pay the price - literally.
Women who wear makeup are paid more money than women who don’t: they’re seen as more competent. We’re inundated with images of women wearing makeup - even the images of women going “natural” the way straight men protest they REALLY like involves a level of artistry with makeup because natural just means “flawless without me having to think about you trying”.
Performing patriarchal accepted femininity takes time and money. This isn’t a coincidence. Women exist in a patriarchy to be fucked by men. This is the idea of patriarchal womanness - how do you appeal to men. How do you prove it.
“It’s the disconnect of being trained since birth to look a certain way, only to have dudes turn around and go, “Don’t you know we hate all that stuff on your face?” Like it was our idea! Like women collectively woke up one day and thought, “Wouldn’t it be awesome to slap a bunch of chemicals and dyes on our faces every morning from now on?”
We’ve got a multi-billion dollar industry doing their best to remind us daily that we need what they’re selling, so don’t act all befuddled about where we got the idea that we looked better this way. Plus, it’s not like men don’t still expect us to look beautiful. They just don’t want us cheating with cosmetics. Hope your face is naturally flawless!
And while we’re talking, don’t you ladies know how annoying it is that you’re all hung up on your weight? Sure, we expect you to have a great body. But don’t be one of those lame girls who orders salads on a date. We like to see you eat!
Most of the time, when men say they prefer “natural beauty,” they don’t mean that they’re ready for us to start leaving the house the way we roll out of bed in the morning. They mean that they want us to look perfect without appearing to try.
Basically, it’s a trap.”—
the “natural beauty” garbage is so fucking galling
it’s bullshit disingenuous rejection of responsibility for patriarchal beauty standards
it hides yet another performance standard: never let us SEE what we are doing to you
it shows contempt for effort. people are not supposed to try at anything, you’re supposed to be a gifted special snowflake
and admitting that femininity is effort means fundamentally undercutting the idea that women are flighty and trivial and weak
and it makes - OF COURSE - the whole thing about dude’s boners, and not the way there are social and financial consequences for not being a little made-up
and it is so hostile to the idea of self-expression? someone who wears bright red lipstick does not think that people will actually assume their lips REALLY ARE bright red, any more than we assume a dude who shaves his face is naturally hairless, or think that a person wearing a blue shirt actually has blue arms. sometimes we make aesthetic choices to communicate with the world.
which in and of itself depends on women as fundamentally underhanded. of course even the way we present ourselves is a bald-faced lie
basically it is a Gross Things About The Patriarchy 101 midterm all rolled up into one passive-aggressive bid for a pat on the back over some Nice Guy’s “enlightenment”
“Sexism is one instance where it’s virtually impossible to dismantle the master’s house with the master’s tools. No matter how well women think they’ve mastered the game, they’re still playing by somebody else’s rules. And when it comes to women and sex, the old double standards are still very much in effect”—Joan Morgan (via captaindangerslut)
“Like men, women participate in the patriarchy into which they were born and raised because they don’t see any alternative. They inevitably identify with that society and even defend it to some degree. This is a far cry, however, from the notion that women share control over the shape of patriarchal society on some kind of equal footing with men. As a system, patriarchy is a lot more than a bad case of co-dependency or sexual game-playing. It is not a grand “battle of the sexes” in which men and women pursue equal but conflicting interests as “sexual superpowers.” Patriarchy is an oppressive system in which women, like all subordinate groups, make the best of what they’ve got and build whatever basis of power and influence they can. If women are turned into sexual property, then they will find ways to control that property for their own advantage. If they become the emotional caretakers, then they will develop ways to use emotion as leverage. The fact that women can hurt or deprive men doesn’t mean that patriarchy doesn’t exist or that women and men are equal partners in it.”—Allan G. Johnson (via wretchedoftheearth)
i was crying in art class today and this girl was all “why are you crying?” and i didnt really wanna answer and we sorta know each other so i was all “why arent YOU crying?” and then she looked at me and ACTUALLY sTARTED TO CRY I just?? wAS NOT PREPARED FOR THAT